The following are some additional thoughts especially for the 42 wonderful people at Menara Maybank, Bangsar who spent the better part of their Friday evening on 24th November with me for their weekly MyTalk session on the topic of Personality Differences at the Work Place.
It was a pleasure answering all your questions as they definitely showed your keen sense of understanding and deep interest in the subject matter.
Personality differences is one of the factors that we often take for granted in work place settings. This is unfortunate as I believe most of the work-place conflicts are related to communication breakdowns which in return are often closely tied to the different ways in which people interpret words which of course, is largely determined by their personality styles. Similarly, many managers have confided in me how they don't seem to be able to 'get through' to a particular staff or are unable to motivate a certain employee while facing no such problems with the others in the same department or organization. On further analysis, I often find that in such instances, the manager has actually come into contact with a personality style which is either similar to that of his own or totally the opposite. Allow me to explain.
One of the personality styles which I call as the Enterprise are those people who are so focused on the end result that they often forget that their means to reach there often make others feel frustrated, angry or down-right resentful. Their communication style are often 'strong' and lack in emotive words which are more pleasing to the hearts and minds of most people. They despise excuse-makers and will not take 'NO' for an answer. If anything needs to be done today, they want it to be done yesterday! The thing is that, Enterprisers don't even realize that they come across as too hard; that is until they meet their own kind! When this happens, they will resent that person for exactly the same reasons why many others resent them! In other words, they can taste the bitterness of their own medicine.
On the other hand, an Enterpriser may meet an Analyzer who is a careful and slow decision maker. In the eyes of the Enterpriser this is tardiness and sparks fly. Hence, personality differences may come to the fore when one is in close contact with the same or opposite personality style.
I often say to my participants that when a work team is being set up, a manager should not focus on only those who can see eye-to-eye. Rather, there should be a good mix of personality styles in the team to provide an effective check and balance. As much as a team needs members who can get along well with each other, there must also be those who don't see things as the others do or don't easily subscribe to team norms as these may very well be wrong.
The solution to this : The onus is on us who are in leadership,managerial or supervisory roles to acquire some knowledge and skills in personality analyses and interpretations so as to better able to manage our people. As Jim Catchart once said, and acorn is meant to be an oak tree. It is in its nature to do so. By understanding the personality style of our people, we will be able to provide the most accurate assistance and guidance to our people based on their natural states.
